And why would this be difficult? Because, according to the same motivational speaker I am an "Obliger".
I don't usually have time for such people, they tend to talk in the air; grand ideas that don't really make sense or have much substance. Then I came across this idea of knowing yourself from the artist Anna Mason and suddenly it clicked. I am a people-pleaser and I resent it so much it is harming all parts of my life.
It needs to stop.
For future reference, as the artist's blog I mentioned is about to change, here is a longer talk discussing all types and the test to take which is scarily accurate:
I subscribed to Rubin's YouTube channel as she talks about organising and decluttering and I really need to pay attention to that. I may be 43 years old but it's time to find out if you really can teach an old dog new tricks - case in point the previous post about the challenge. Finger out, girlie!